The Dating Effect
Yes! I will marry you, said Meera.
All of their friends were present there. Meera and Vivaan have always been everyone’s favourites. ‘The perfect match’. It was the most wonderful proposal setup. Vivaan planned it all at Meera’s favourite restaurant’s rooftop in Delhi. The lights were dim and sparkling. It was beautifully decorated with fairy lights. He included everything that Meera liked. Roses, candles, cake, and balloons with the most amazing setup. It was a dream proposal for any girl. Vivaan made sure that the picture should be taken at the right moment as Meera would prefer. On the contrary, Vivaan would have liked it in a more personal way.
He went on his knees with a beautiful Solitaire ring in his hands and asked Meera,
“Will you marry me”?
Their families knew about them, they liked them together. All they wanted was for Meera and Vivaan to focus on their careers first and then get married, To which they agreed. They themselves wanted to enjoy the dating years.
Both of them graduated together and got placed through campus selections in the same company. They were having the most wonderful time together. They decided how they wanted to marry and planned it. It was a grand wedding, everything was done according to the couple's choice. After all, it was their big day. It was a destination wedding in Jaipur, very royal and elegant.
Soon the rituals and wedding bells stopped playing and life kicked in. They got back and resumed their respective jobs.
It was all pink and flowery for them as it usually is in the beginning. Time flew fast and it was their 3rd anniversary.
Meera planned a wonderful date night and surprised Vivaan.
Let's go for a dinner date at our favourite place!
said, Meera.
Unaware that Vivaan had a rough day and was very pissed at his boss for not accepting his presentation which he had worked hard for.
I don’t want to celebrate! I am not in the state of mind for going out.
But it's our third anniversary!
I can’t…
Don’t do this, It's been a long that we went out together. Work will always be there, we have to make time for ourselves.
Also, it's a special day today.
Meera, please understand! Not today, just leave me alone for some time.
Meera wiped her tears and left!
She lives in her dream world, never ready to understand that relationship comes with responsibility though she‘s smart and intelligent. A perfect example of beauty with brains but when it comes to her husband she behaves like a child and that’s the root cause of all her problems
She is a modern woman unlike the name that her grandmother gave her ‘Meera’.
She’s tall and fair with beautiful curly hair and brown sparkling eyes with dreams of travelling around the world. She’s not arrogant but she‘s very proud of her beauty.
Meera’s childhood plays an important role in her impulsive and short-tempered behaviour once when she was angry she threw away a beautiful handmade photo frame which had silver stars on its white border which she made on their first anniversary. she’s very creative and spends most of her time painting and doing art and craft work. She likes being busy whenever at home.
I am sorry! Vivaan texted Meera, standing right outside their bedroom after an hour almost.
IT'S NOT OKAY!! she replied.
Vivaan opened the door and entered the room with a bunch of roses and a cute heart-shaped cake. He managed to order these somehow.
Meera was sad, It was very evident that she cried. Her nose was running and her eyes were swollen.
Are you mad? It wasn’t such a big deal, It's okay if we couldn’t go out for a fancy dinner. You shouldn’t have cried for this!
What's more important is that we are together and can celebrate wherever we want. I am sorry for ruining your way though. I had a terrible day at work and was really out of my mind.
I know! We can celebrate it anywhere when we are together, but what’s wrong if we go out and celebrate like we used to do before marriage?
Nothing wrong Meera! It's just that I was not okay today. You should understand without any argument and all that crying.
I understand! It's just that, I have started feeling we are not the couple we used to be. We are not the same anymore.
That's not true! We love each other, we respect each other, and we want to be together like always. Nothing has changed.
I Don’t feel the same Vivaan, It's not the same.
We both are always busy with our work life, we don‘t spend time together and whenever we do, it's mostly family outings.
We have drifted apart a lot and the worst part is that you don’t even notice. It's very normal for you.
You are thinking too much Meera!
It's not what I am thinking, It's what I am feeling.
Their anniversary was completely ruined by their argument. They were both upset and did not want to ruin it further so they switched on to their respective Mobile phones and slept through the night without having any other conversation.
It’s been five years since they are married and they dated for four years. It's been a long time since then. They know each other well, they know what makes their partner happy, they understand what their partner will not tolerate, and they are aware of each other’s good and evil sides, still, they are together and trying to work on their marriage as things are not going smooth since two years. Their fights and arguments have gone up in number and so Meera has decided to see a marriage counsellor but she knows it will be a hard nut to crack as she is very well aware that Vivaan will never agree to this, he will never take help from an outsider for his relationship. He’s a very private person and does not like sharing his life with others.
It's Sunday evening, and Meera plans to talk it out with Vivaan and decides to tell him how she feels about the relationship she walks up to the terrace garden where Vivaan is talking to somebody on the phone and seems happy.
The moment he cut the call
Meera asked, “ Hey what's up! you sounded thrilled! Who was it?
“It was Ajay who I was talking to and he just told me a great news!”
And that is?
“You remember I told you about my promotion?
Yes! Of course, I do.
It's confirmed! Ajay just told me. Though,
It's not official yet.
Wow, That's amazing!
Meera hugged him and they kissed. They both seemed happy and for that moment Meera completely forgot that they are still dealing with relationship crises and
she came to tell him about the counsellor. She smiled at him and stayed quiet.
Vivaan saw her and understood that there is something behind the smile.
He asked,” What's that?
hmm…
c’mon Meera I know this look of yours!
Tell me.
No, It's nothing just remember how much you wanted this. I have witnessed all your hard work, you so deserve this!
Congratulations!
”Don’t change the topic, there is something, I can see it on your face!
Your expressions speak too much.
Meera smiled and said,” Yes! there is something I want to discuss but after celebrating your big news!”
“Alright! How about a family dinner?
Let's surprise mom dad with the big news!”
Meera smirked, ” Family Dinner Again!!”
she thought but did not say anything,
she did not want to ruin his happiness so
said yes!
The next morning Meera went to Vivaan and told him that she is having emotional turmoil regarding their relationship and wanted to seek help. Vivaan contrary to his nature said okay as he has been noticing Meera’s behaviour for a while and did not want to piss her off or spoil her mood.
They took an appointment with a very well-known marriage counsellor and fixed a meeting date for the coming Saturday.
It was Saturday morning, their appointment was at 3 pm.
Vivaan asked Meera, Are you sure of this?
Yes! Very sure. Also, I have tried everything on my end. Now I feel it's only a non-biased third person's opinion that might help and show us a way.
It's okay to take help Vivaan!
I know!
At 3 pm exactly they reached and entered the therapist's chamber. They met a woman named Dr Amrita Dubey, who had a PhD. She was short and curvy. She seemed enthusiastic and energetic. She asked them to sit down and start talking one by one.
After listening to both of them for a while she smiled and said, You both look perfect together.
Meera and Vivaan looked at each other and gave each other a half smile.
Dr Amrita said, Vivaan Meera, These issues are very normal for a couple of your generation. I call it a “Dating Effect”.
You both have to understand that life changes after marriage. Things can never remain the same. Life is not always a fairytale, time changes, people evolve, life experiences hit in, and new priorities pop in.
Meera, I would suggest you be a little more patient and act a little more mature. you have to realise that you are not dating Vivaan anymore. You are married,
I am not saying that being romantic is wrong, It's perfectly fine but only when both partners are okay with it.
You have to realise that you are not in college anymore. It's okay when things turn out to be the opposite of what you expected. You have to learn to accept changes and move forward gracefully with your partner. This will help you in the long run.
Vivaan, you have to remind yourself of the promises you made to Meera, Work is important but not more than your partner. Work will always be there, you have to make sure that you don’t miss out on great times with your partner for work. The right amount of balancing is required in your marriage nothing else.
Meera and Vivaan stepped out of the office and realised what they have been doing wrong, and promised themselves for being a better partners.
They went out for dinner that night.
Cheers to our journey! They said.
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